FORMER WOMEN OF CHOICE is comprised exclusively of women who have had one or more abortions - and now regret their decision to terminate their pregnancy.
We are women who understand the pressures & consequences of pregnancy termination and its impact on the many facets of our personal lives, as well as those of family, friends, and relationships.
Regardless of the circumstances of the pregnancy, whether legal or illegal, young or old, single or married, we share a common bond of losses resulting from the abortion experience. Our losses are real and we have a right to grieve, find healing and hope, and restore our confidence, self esteem, hopes, and dreams.
Many women felt abortion was the right choice at the time, but now, hours, days, months, or even years later, we came to the realization that our own child(ren)'s lives were terminated - and our lives were dramatically changed as a result of the abortion experience.
The loss is permanent, but there is healing and hope available by working through the grief process to find forgiveness and resolution.
The hardest part may be for the woman (mother) to forgive herself and learn to love herself and others around her again and change her self destructive lifestyle of self punishment and hurt.
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"Ask the Women Who Know"
Receiving the results of the pregnancy test, the doctor asks the married woman with four children if she'd like to terminate. It was asked just as casually as asking if she'd like a cup of coffee.
Abortion was supposed to solve the problem, instead it left her with a whole new set of issues.
The sense of relief which the woman experienced following her abortion was quickly replaced by other emotional and relational issues in her life.
The woman used denial and defense mechanisms to cope with everyday life. As time went on it took more and more effort to function. She was getting tired and found everyday life painful. Would the reminders of her losses ever stop? Would she ever be able to be happy and celebrate life?
She found herself avoiding baby showers, weddings, and other celebrations, not being able to share in the joy and happiness. It was easy to make excuses. Over time she found she was isolating herself more and more...to avoid the hurt.
She hurt, but could not cry. It was legal, but why didn't they show her the fetal photographs at the stage of pregnancy and tell her the risks before the abortion? The pain became unbearable as the years passed and she saw what her fetus looked like when it was terminated. How could she stop the pain and guilt she was now feeling?
After the procedure, at home, she passed the baby's hand. Shocked, she held it, then wrapped it in a small piece of fabric and placed it in a box in her drawer. Suddenly things became very real that she had not been told everything...
It was a late term abortion and the baby was lying between her legs with no nurse answering her ring for help. It seemed like an eternity until the nurse arrived with a cold steel bedpan and placed her baby's body in it and walked away. She lay there in bloodstained sheets, conscious and crying. No one told her about this...
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In the following pages are true stories of women who bought the lie - and how abortion negatively affected their personal lives. Women of all ages, stages, and cultures.
It's time to hear their stories - and how they dealt with one of the most intrusive, abrasive experiences of their lives by those who promised to help them. Some were left with physical problems, others with unseen scars they carry for their entire lives.
Abortion gave women the choice, - now hear their voice!
I made the choice, now hear my voice!
Ask the Women who Know.
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COPYRIGHT June 2009 by FORMER WOMEN OF CHOICE
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