Pregnancy is one of the most personal and intimate stages in a woman's life. It is always a gentle suprise, tender and precious to the new mother, often a wonder of life embraced.
The pregnancy test is positive, but she may not have thought about having a baby.
The pregnancy is confirmed. This becomes something she must embrace lovingly as part of her medical history, whether she gives birth to her baby or terminates. She feels the physical and emotional changes in her body as the pregnancy progresses. Hope and fear both temper her response to the pregnancy.
The fact is, an abortion will not make her "unpregnant." It simply removes the growing baby from its mother, abruptly, with no regard for the offspring of the woman.
Women care about protecting women, not seeing them exploited, abused, or abandonded - and it is this concern which started the women's movement, to give women hope, help, a career, and a promise for their future. The focus is on the woman. Give women real choices.
Abortion is marketed as a quick solution - walk in, pay the money, put feet in stirrups, and it's over. Recovery, then walk out the door, experiences an immediate sense of relief, and it's over.
Men favor abortion to be a quick way out of a relationship, not having to pay child support payments, and an easy way out. The woman is often dumped and left to fend on her own. Abandonded. Deserted.
It's cheaper to pay for the abortion than an eighteen year commitment. And he can walk away.
Time passes. Something triggers her to think back to her abortion experience.
The woman may be relaxing on the beach when she hears small children laughing and running on the sand. The woman begins to wonder what her child might have been like, what color hair and eyes it might have had, and the laughter of its voice. Would her child have been as fun to play with on the beach? Then she picks up her towel and goes to her room, tears forming in her eyes as she thinks about what might have been. No more thinking about what might have been and never will be.
What triggers a woman to think about her missing child? About the baby that was taken by abortion? It could be anything - sounds, smells, the crying of a baby, laughing of little children, being around joyous pregnant women, seeing a commerical on tv, whatever. The woman begins to feels uncomfortable, overwhelmed, upset, and unable to deal with the emotions. She uses defense mechanisms to cope - denial, avoidance, rationalization, anger, etc. It takes more effort to protect herself from the pain. So, she stuffs it back inside, further and further, and goes on with her life the best she can. It is over and there is nothing she can do to change the situation, ever. So, she sucks it all in and moves on...
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